Out of Recovery

I’m here to tell you that it’s completely possible to permanently overcome your addiction, never relapse again ... and live a life of fulfilling your dreams!

I know, you’ve tried and tried to quit ... and keep relapsing. So what’s going to be different about my approach? And how can I promise that you can turn your life around in 90 days?

Hi, I’m Kathy Williamson, the Addictions Coach. I can identify with your struggles because I’ve been there myself.

I’m not a psychologist or a doctor. I’m just a regular person who struggled for ten long years to get out of my addiction. So I know the ups and downs, losing close relationships, the internal search for why I was doing my addiction, the constant changing of support groups in order to hopefully find a solution, and the shame and self-hatred for not being able to stop my addiction.

What got me out of my addiction was a way completely different than what's being taught today. But I'll get to that in a moment.

Through my approach I can identify and deal with some of the “stinking thinking” as I call it. The lies we tell ourselves. The excuses we use. The lies we tell others. The things we do to hide our addiction. The self-pity parties (oh, I was so good at this one!). The dreams we throw away. The struggle of forgetting our hurt after we’ve forgiven someone.

You know, I found that relapse provides keys to understanding the underlying causes of addictions. The emotions you go through at the time of your temptation should be looked at very deeply. Temptations all start within the head – the stinking thinking between your ears. Sometimes the things we tell ourselves are true, and sometimes they’re not. But whatever the reason, we end up relapsing and going downhill again.

But the treatment that society offers for addicts doesn’t touch the real causes. Society has changed its theories over the years. It used to be that alcoholism, and drug use, was considered a “sin” according to the Bible. However, insurance companies weren’t getting people to come in for help. So I notice in the early 1980's that they started telling the addict that “it’s not your fault” in an effort to get them to reach out for counseling or in-patient treatment. They still didn’t get the response they wanted, so they emphasized that alcoholism was a disease, that you can’t control it, so there’s no shame in having it. This theory eventually spread to other addictions and almost any problem out there – drug abuse, sexual addiction, overeating, ADHD, shoplifting, etc.

The treatment they offer is counseling and being connected to other addicts on a weekly basis through support groups, and learning how to cope with your addiction for the rest of your life. After all, since it’s a disease, there is no cure for it.

However, this disease model leaves a person hopeless and with no motivation to really find out what’s causing the addiction. I see it as the blind leading the blind. And I'm here to help you open your eyes and take charge of your life!

Sure, there are moments of having anxieties that trigger using drugs or alcohol. There are memories that one tries to escape because they’re too painful to deal with. And, there’s also the fact that the drugs or alcohol do produce good feelings, although it’s only short-term. There’s the loneliness, the emptiness, the lack of purpose, the lack of love, the “poor me” mentality, the victim role, the “I am what I am, I’ll never change” attitude.

And speaking of attitudes, how low can you get before you finally realize that your attitude is your choice? Other people don’t make you do your addiction or others don’t make you feel sorry for yourself, or feel worthless, or make you feel so ashamed that you have to escape through your addiction.

You may be stuck in your addiction for a number of years now. The longer you do it, the more stuck you think you are. You’ve given up on ever getting free of the addiction (because no one has offered you any alternative to the disease model). You’ve given up on having healthy, loving relationships. You’ve given up on restoring broken relationships – especially with a spouse or family members. Perhaps you’ve even given up on having a regular job – or even a career you were once excited about. You’ve given up on yourself and you don’t care. Period.

If you continue on the same path you’re on, I can almost guarantee you that you’ll stay stuck in your addiction and the relapse cycle. Why? Because you’re not being told what the true underlying causes are and shown how to get yourself out of your addiction.

Are You Lacking Will Power – Or Something Else?

It’s not a matter of “will power.” Most addicts think of needing the will power to stop doing their addiction, which is true to a certain extent. But the real thing you need to look at is finding the right “motivation” for a bright future which will pull you out of your addiction and into living the life of your dreams.

In fact, you’re being told that you’ll never permanently overcome your addiction because it’s a disease. Now, I’m not a medical doctor, but I’ve noticed that even the psychology and medical professions are having difficulty coming to agreement on what causes addictions. While they’re still fighting among themselves, you’re stuck in the middle, and you are told only their side – that it’s a disease.

Earlier I mentioned that addictions are really a “sin” according to the Bible. Now, if you don’t want to hear anything about religion, that’s fine. These principles that I’ll show you still work, whether or not you want to believe in God. While there are advantages to believing in God, that’s not my point right here.

Right now I just want to open your eyes to a different viewpoint on what causes addictions and how to get out of them.

But first, let me tell you my story ...

Back in 1979 after spending almost six months in the hospital with a medical condition, I became addicted to prescription pain medicine. At that time I finally admitted to myself that I was addicted and knew I couldn’t lick the problem myself. I had also been around a Christian lady who was so vibrant with life - she said it was because she had Jesus in her life. So I asked Jesus Christ to come into my life ... I wanted out of my addiction and to grab what I saw in that lady.

I wish I could say things got better, but they didn’t. In fact, they got worse! Even though I got thoroughly grounded in understanding the Bible, it didn’t help me with my addiction or deep depression.

About five years later I started attending support groups. Although these were Christian support groups, they still went off of the same theories of the typical 12-Step AA model. I got frustrated because I’d do the steps and then say, “okay, what’s next?” because I was still stuck. I finally gave up.

Then after 10 long years of struggling with my addiction, things suddenly changed. Let me back up a little first. About a year after I became a Christian I needed to find a place to “give” of myself to help others. So I got training at a Christian-based crisis hotline to be a non-professional counselor on the crisis phones. I had found my passion! I loved it! Within 3-4 months I had come out of my deep depression, but not my addiction. Then as time moved along, the excitement wore off.

But in 1984 I knew the Lord had called me to open my own crisis hotline. I just didn’t know where or when. It wasn’t until the first part of 1990 that the doors opened for me to do this. Within four months my whole life turned around and I’ve never gone back! I no longer had a need for my addiction. I no longer had pity parties. I could no longer get myself to start crying because I felt so bad about myself.

In fact, I remember driving down the road thinking, this is the best “high” anyone could have! No drug could provide this high – and it lasts! I've been completely free of my addiction and depression for at least 20 years!

In 1995 I had to close the doors to the crisis hotline, so I moved back to California and got involved in the previous hotline I counseled at. With this newfound knowledge, I spoke to people in crisis about taking their dreams off the shelf, dusting them off, and start working on them. I encouraged them that, as a byproduct of doing this, their problems (including addictions) would go away.

It was amazing to see how this approach set many people free from the problems they were stuck in.

In recent years I’ve been able to teach this approach to people staying at rescue missions. I was able to confirm that when they relapsed, it was because when the excitement wore off from getting a steady job, getting an apartment, that they didn’t have any reason not to mess up their lives. They didn’t have an awesome future to look forward to! And they ended up doing their addiction again.

Discovering your passion in life and using it in a life-long vision to reach out to love and serve others provides the powerful motivation to pull you out of your addiction and into living the life of your dreams.

You see, there’s a mindshift that needs to take place. Instead of being motivated not to do your addiction because you don’t want to go back to the horrible lifestyle you had as an addict ... you need the motivation of not wanting to do your addiction because you don’t want to mess up the awesome future ahead of you. Do you see the difference?

Getting Started On The Right Tract

So how do you do this and how do you get started?

I’ve written a book Out of Recovery & Into Living Your Dreams! which goes into detail on the various things you need to deal with in order to quit your relapse and get on with your life. Here’s the Table of Contents for you to check out.

The neat thing is that it also contains a 12 week workbook to walk you through the process. I show you what you need to be working on each week. It helps you figure out some things you’ve not looked at before – like what your passion is, some of the stinking thinking going on inside your head ... remember, I've been where you are so I know what's going on in your head. You'll also learn how to forgive others, how to discover your “love language” and more.

And because I've walked this road, I can identify what's going on between your ears and help you see it too ... and replace it with proper thinking and believing.

Yes, the book is written from a Christian perspective and does contain Scriptures. Again, if you’re not interested in that aspect, then skip over it and pull out the general information on the principles that you can apply to your life.

However, the advantage to being a Christian is that you can develop a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and God. This is important, because only God loves you unconditionally. And if you’ve lost relationships because of your addiction, God still loves you and He will NEVER leave you.

In fact, when I became a Christian this was the one truth that I held on to – that God would never leave me. Those of us who have been rejected a lot, this is such an awesome thing to know.

As Christians we also learn how to receive God’s unconditional love, and how to properly love others. Now that’s something that’s rarely taught. And when you see how God loves you and others, you can learn the skills of developing healthy, loving relationships that last.

Another advantage of being a Christian is that you’ll get to uncover your true mission in life. What did God create you to do? Usually it’s whatever you’re passionate about. You see, we’re made in the image of God and God is a God of passion. I’m not talking about sexual passion. I’m talking about whatever you’re passionate about. It could be fixing cars or sewing, changing your community, or changing the world!

So in working through this workbook you’ll come up with an understanding of what your passion is in life. You'll start to develop a vision for your future and the steps needed to accomplish it.

Your Future Is Up To You

Are you ready to try a different course to stop your addiction and take your dreams off the shelf and start living them?

I know some people want to keep their addiction a secret. You can immediately download this ebook after you purchase it. You can store it safely on your computer or on a CD. No one will know that you’re working on this problem. You can print out the workbook pages as you work on each week’s lesson.

But it's time for you to step up to the plate and take control of your life ... TODAY!

How much longer are you going to put up with the daily struggles and self-condemnation? Or trying to hide your addiction? Living in fear that someone will find out!

What will it take before you finally take a hard look at your life and own up to where you're at in life? Losing another relationship? Losing a job? Losing your financial security? Waking up one morning and looking around, trying to figure out where you are?

It's time for you to do whatever is necessary to get yourself out of the hell hole you're in ... or are going to be in if you don't do something to change your life.

I'm offering you a book that will help you put your life back together. For only $19.95 you can download the ebook right now and get started.

Additional Help Is Available - You Don't Have To Figure All This Out By Yourself!

However, if you're like most addicts, you don't know where to start or how to keep yourself motivated for the long haul. You're not aware of the beliefs that need changed in order to be permanently set free from your addiction.

So I'm offering you some additional help.

Monthly Membership Program - "90 Days To a Changed Life" - You'll get monthly audio teachings and email support for $19.95 per month. In fact, I believe these additional teachings will help you so much that I'm offering you the first month free when you purchase the ebook. That's right. When you buy the ebook for $19.95, you'll get the first month of membership free. Thereafter, every 30 days you'll be billed $19.95 for your monthly membership. There are no contracts to sign. You can quit at any time (although I don't know why you would want to with the way your life will be improving on a daily basis). But if you do need to stop, all you have to do is email me and let me know you'd like to stop the membership program. However, no refunds for partial month payment. More program info ...

"Coaching To Make Your Dreams A Reality" Program - If you want more personal one-on-one help, click here to learn about my coaching program.

So, choose from the options below to obtain the book and/or membership program.

Yes, I want to purchase only the ebook/workbook, Out of Recovery & Into Living Your Dreams!
Yes, I want to purchase the ebook/workbook, Out of Recovery & Into Living Your Dreams! and the monthly membership program "90 Days To a Changed Life". I understand I will be billed $19.95 now (for the ebook), and then be billed $19.95 every 30 days for the monthly membership program.
Or, you can pre-purchase the paper copy of the book for $19.95 plus shipping, and it will be shipped to you when it is available March 1st.

I'm looking forward to working with you to help you achieve the dreams for your life!

Kathy Williamson
The Addictions Coach

Remember, with God - everything is possible!

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